Its all in the mind.
It seems very obvious and so it is, and is actually not something to think about in a different way, that worry and fear are two different things. The one thing common in them is that both the words refer to something not very happy and demanding.
Worry- feel or cause to feel anxious or troubled about actual or potential problems.
Fear- unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm. Or, to be afraid of.
That's how google defines the two words. If you ask me, how would i define the two words... i'll be like... umm... lemme think...
And the best i can come up with is this- If i bite my finger nails, i am worried or anxious. And if my heart is pounding, and i can hear it even in the most noisy surrounding, then fear has taken over me.
Mine is just a vague description, you now what it is... and you don't need to define it to yourself. You know you know it. :)
Well, i already preached about worry, (http://gauri114.blogspot.in/2016/10/one-less-problem.html), but my grey knows and recognizes fear very well too. :b
Fear is not a very good thing i'd say, but it is also not bad. When i say not bad, i mean little of every thing has to be in life. Common! you cant have every thing sweet and pretty in your life. Well, that is exactly what life is: "Cant have every thing sweet and pretty". :V
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Now, there's this monster; a huge, vicious monster (Imagine it in your way as much as you can. You got a healthy grey. :b) And you are on you bed at night and sleeping. This monster creeps into your room. It stares at you with its green eyes, it's hands drenched in blood, and now is moving towards you, to engulf you till the last bit of you has no existence. You are startled so bad that you jump into the corner of your bed with the sheets and Bozo. You know what it feels like, your heart beats faster, and it races so fast you think it will push itself out of your ribs.
Then... some words reach out to your ears, out of nowhere, and you look at Bozo. :O he is right there. but he just said something. You are surprised, and think about it. "Its my time to ghost?" and he repeats, "Yes, its your time to ghost."
You know what ghosts can do, right? they are expressionless and without feelings for that matter. Humans cant do that, we have a different entity for that- robots and ghosts. the only difference is that the ghost wont take your orders, it'll give you some. :b
So ghost have this amazing ability to pass through anything... as in, through walls, doors, tables, chairs, pizza, banana, potato, jolly ranchers, to name a few. They can pass through anything. (Remember, ghost is our creation. you can imagine it any way you want. This is how i imagine. :b)
Now all you have to do is this, become a ghost. Once you become a ghost, you lure around the room a little bit, from one corner to another, puzzling the monster, and creeping into minute places of your room, where the monster cant reach. then coming out and be like BhOOOooooo! It'll scare the shit out of the monster, and you'll find it shivering and it's legs getting weaker and weaker.
Yet, you still haven't defeated this monster, so now you do something that will end this forever, once and for all. You use your power to pass through things. You gather all your might, and seeing the monster start trembling in front of you, you start to be braver, and ready to risk anything that comes by now. You now enslave the monster, and rise strong. And you pass through it. You just speed over to it's chest and pass right through the back of the monster, and zhup! Its done.
The monster shatters into pieces giving off bright green rays and slowly starts fading, and disappears until it does not leave a single trace.
Alright now, you come back to normal, and smile at what you just did there. You are proud of yourself. :)
You see, fear is what you make of it, what you imagine it to be. And one defeats it from within, the superpower of ghosting, every one has it. Fear is something that you control. It seems as if your mind in the state of fear cannot do much, however, that's not how it is. Your mind is capable of doing wonders within a fraction of a second. If you underestimate its power, you are doing no good to yourself. It is in the mind that your fear lies, and it will reside there if you constantly feed it with 'what you think you cant do'. Even if there is no Bozo for you, create one, find one, it'll be right with you somewhere, telling you to go against fear. Fear just grows if you keep thinking about it in a way that will never help you overcome it. You need to face it once in your life and finish it. Just there! Full stop! Done!
You have no idea how it feels like to take it off your mind if you haven't done it, definitely.
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I'll share something here. i badly wanted to learn how to cycle but i was afraid of riding it. i'd cry and make a scene even if i only sat over it. i'd make stupid excuses for not even trying. 'the seat is too high', 'the tire seems flat' and this one, 'my butt is unequal'. but i actually did want to learn. my parents would keep telling me to learn it; they tried teaching me themselves. all loss.some of my friends tried to teach me. they gave up. :b
i was afraid of falling. the idea of bruising myself haunted me. i was scared of wounds. Seems a small thing now, but believe me, it was something then. And it was obvious, you cant learn how to cycle without falling even once; and that i couldn't digest.
i was told by someone then that i simply made excuses for something that i didn't want to face. And that i was trying to find faults in the cycle for that purpose. If i wanted to do something so badly, id do it and not make excuses. The person was right. i was the only one who was holding myself back. i realized that these people will only be able to teach me only when i myself am mentally ready for it.
i took time. But i made up my mind. i had to do it. Even if i fell, i would rise and try again.
it was the summer of this year,2016, start of April, close to my birthday. There is a place around where i live, the roads are smooth and without traffic. Woke up early, around six, and had my two good buddies waiting for me there, with a cycle. The fear was right there, where it was supposed to be; inside me. And then it happened, when i got on the cycle, maybe after many scenes of crying and cribbing, it struck me. The ground only felt inches away from my face. The green eyed monster stared at me. I held the handles as tight as i could. There was this voice that told me to start paddling. I wouldn't. But the voice got sterner. I peddled and and i shook. One more time i went. Slowly, i realized that i had started to ghost. And the monster was fading away. As i said, it was shivered, and had its legs going weak.
3 days it took me. the 4th, the 5th and the 6th of April. I fell. I rose. I tried again. I even hurt myself, but most of the time, my friend had my back. But it was me who was mentally prepared to face my fears. The best part was when, i had already taken pace, and my friend was right behind me, holding the cycle, and running along. I got excited, and cried out his name, but he wouldn't respond. It took me a while to realize that he was no more there, and was way behind me. :)
On the 11th of April, my birthday, the day i showed my friends that i could cycle. The way the air felt and the way i headed with smoothness- just amazing.
Shame i could make up my mind to learn how to cycle this late, but common! i faced it. And now i can do what i couldn't before. Its all in the mind.
A famous dialogue from the movie After Earth, starring Will and Jaden Smith. This is where i find the concept of ghosting, which really did work for me and the article as well. :b Slow movie. Nice movie. Watch the movie.
Worry- feel or cause to feel anxious or troubled about actual or potential problems.
Fear- unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm. Or, to be afraid of.
That's how google defines the two words. If you ask me, how would i define the two words... i'll be like... umm... lemme think...
And the best i can come up with is this- If i bite my finger nails, i am worried or anxious. And if my heart is pounding, and i can hear it even in the most noisy surrounding, then fear has taken over me.
Mine is just a vague description, you now what it is... and you don't need to define it to yourself. You know you know it. :)
Well, i already preached about worry, (http://gauri114.blogspot.in/2016/10/one-less-problem.html), but my grey knows and recognizes fear very well too. :b
Fear is not a very good thing i'd say, but it is also not bad. When i say not bad, i mean little of every thing has to be in life. Common! you cant have every thing sweet and pretty in your life. Well, that is exactly what life is: "Cant have every thing sweet and pretty". :V
******************************************
Now, there's this monster; a huge, vicious monster (Imagine it in your way as much as you can. You got a healthy grey. :b) And you are on you bed at night and sleeping. This monster creeps into your room. It stares at you with its green eyes, it's hands drenched in blood, and now is moving towards you, to engulf you till the last bit of you has no existence. You are startled so bad that you jump into the corner of your bed with the sheets and Bozo. You know what it feels like, your heart beats faster, and it races so fast you think it will push itself out of your ribs.
Then... some words reach out to your ears, out of nowhere, and you look at Bozo. :O he is right there. but he just said something. You are surprised, and think about it. "Its my time to ghost?" and he repeats, "Yes, its your time to ghost."
You know what ghosts can do, right? they are expressionless and without feelings for that matter. Humans cant do that, we have a different entity for that- robots and ghosts. the only difference is that the ghost wont take your orders, it'll give you some. :b
So ghost have this amazing ability to pass through anything... as in, through walls, doors, tables, chairs, pizza, banana, potato, jolly ranchers, to name a few. They can pass through anything. (Remember, ghost is our creation. you can imagine it any way you want. This is how i imagine. :b)
Now all you have to do is this, become a ghost. Once you become a ghost, you lure around the room a little bit, from one corner to another, puzzling the monster, and creeping into minute places of your room, where the monster cant reach. then coming out and be like BhOOOooooo! It'll scare the shit out of the monster, and you'll find it shivering and it's legs getting weaker and weaker.
Yet, you still haven't defeated this monster, so now you do something that will end this forever, once and for all. You use your power to pass through things. You gather all your might, and seeing the monster start trembling in front of you, you start to be braver, and ready to risk anything that comes by now. You now enslave the monster, and rise strong. And you pass through it. You just speed over to it's chest and pass right through the back of the monster, and zhup! Its done.
The monster shatters into pieces giving off bright green rays and slowly starts fading, and disappears until it does not leave a single trace.
Alright now, you come back to normal, and smile at what you just did there. You are proud of yourself. :)
You see, fear is what you make of it, what you imagine it to be. And one defeats it from within, the superpower of ghosting, every one has it. Fear is something that you control. It seems as if your mind in the state of fear cannot do much, however, that's not how it is. Your mind is capable of doing wonders within a fraction of a second. If you underestimate its power, you are doing no good to yourself. It is in the mind that your fear lies, and it will reside there if you constantly feed it with 'what you think you cant do'. Even if there is no Bozo for you, create one, find one, it'll be right with you somewhere, telling you to go against fear. Fear just grows if you keep thinking about it in a way that will never help you overcome it. You need to face it once in your life and finish it. Just there! Full stop! Done!
You have no idea how it feels like to take it off your mind if you haven't done it, definitely.
**************************************************
I'll share something here. i badly wanted to learn how to cycle but i was afraid of riding it. i'd cry and make a scene even if i only sat over it. i'd make stupid excuses for not even trying. 'the seat is too high', 'the tire seems flat' and this one, 'my butt is unequal'. but i actually did want to learn. my parents would keep telling me to learn it; they tried teaching me themselves. all loss.some of my friends tried to teach me. they gave up. :b
i was afraid of falling. the idea of bruising myself haunted me. i was scared of wounds. Seems a small thing now, but believe me, it was something then. And it was obvious, you cant learn how to cycle without falling even once; and that i couldn't digest.
i was told by someone then that i simply made excuses for something that i didn't want to face. And that i was trying to find faults in the cycle for that purpose. If i wanted to do something so badly, id do it and not make excuses. The person was right. i was the only one who was holding myself back. i realized that these people will only be able to teach me only when i myself am mentally ready for it.
i took time. But i made up my mind. i had to do it. Even if i fell, i would rise and try again.
it was the summer of this year,2016, start of April, close to my birthday. There is a place around where i live, the roads are smooth and without traffic. Woke up early, around six, and had my two good buddies waiting for me there, with a cycle. The fear was right there, where it was supposed to be; inside me. And then it happened, when i got on the cycle, maybe after many scenes of crying and cribbing, it struck me. The ground only felt inches away from my face. The green eyed monster stared at me. I held the handles as tight as i could. There was this voice that told me to start paddling. I wouldn't. But the voice got sterner. I peddled and and i shook. One more time i went. Slowly, i realized that i had started to ghost. And the monster was fading away. As i said, it was shivered, and had its legs going weak.
3 days it took me. the 4th, the 5th and the 6th of April. I fell. I rose. I tried again. I even hurt myself, but most of the time, my friend had my back. But it was me who was mentally prepared to face my fears. The best part was when, i had already taken pace, and my friend was right behind me, holding the cycle, and running along. I got excited, and cried out his name, but he wouldn't respond. It took me a while to realize that he was no more there, and was way behind me. :)
On the 11th of April, my birthday, the day i showed my friends that i could cycle. The way the air felt and the way i headed with smoothness- just amazing.
Shame i could make up my mind to learn how to cycle this late, but common! i faced it. And now i can do what i couldn't before. Its all in the mind.
A famous dialogue from the movie After Earth, starring Will and Jaden Smith. This is where i find the concept of ghosting, which really did work for me and the article as well. :b Slow movie. Nice movie. Watch the movie.
Danger is real, Fear is a choice.
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